Ideas For Online Relationship (D/S)
Courtesy of RedTears & a variety of sources
Everything is written under the assumption that the Dominant is male and the submissive is female. If this is not the case, use your common sense and reverse is respectively!
Slight variations are not listed, alter to your preferences and circumstances.
REMEMBER, a D/s relationship involves two caring people just like a vanilla one
Slight variations are not listed, alter to your preferences and circumstances.
REMEMBER, a D/s relationship involves two caring people just like a vanilla one
Using Snail Mail....-- Send the submissive a collar or a piece of jewlry to wear as a collar
-- Send the submissive toys to use -- Have the submissive take a picture of herself with her hands in her panties and then cum in them, hand wash them, and mail to them to the Dominant. Email the photo or send it with the panties. The Dominant should then repeat the process, take picture of himself with the panties wrapped around his cock (alternatively with his cum in them) and cum in them, hand was them and send them back to the submissive. Email the picture or send it with the panties. This can be done the other way around, or both ways. -- Send the Dominant a worn (but hygenic) pair of panties or bra to keep -- Send the submissive a worn (but hygenic) pair of underwear or shirt to keep -- Send presents to one another (sexual or non sexual) -- Send hand written letters -- Have the submissive put lipstick on and kiss a sheet of paper, writing a phrase like 'for my master' beneath it and send it to the Dominant -- Have a teddy bear or something similar to send back and forth, each sleeping with it for a few nights before sending it back (perhaps use two so you each always have one) |
Using Phone...-- Call the submissive in a public place and tell them dirty things. The submissive may or may not need to say dirty things back, depending on agreement
-- Have the submissive call at specified times each day/night -- Watch a movie at the same time and stay in contact, talking about it -- Call the submissive out of the blue, leave a voice mail if they can't pick up, just to make them feel loved -- If allowed, call the Dominant out of the blue, leave a voice mail if they can't pick up, just to make them feel loved -- Call the submissive and have them listen to the Dominant masturbate/have them masturbate -- Have the submissive call the Dominant every time they want to masturbate -- Have the submissive go to the rest room during the day and call the Dominant/have the Dominant call them. -- They must not say a word while the Dominant directs them to masturbate or cause pain -- Call one another in the middle of the night (not too often!), just to say you are thinking about the other |
Using Live Video...-- Spend time simply 'sitting' with one another, perhaps watching the same movie or just sitting, busying yourself however, or perhaps leave it on for the night as you each fall asleep. Just spend time together. This will mean the world to the submissive
-- Watch a movie at the same time and stay in contact, talking about it -- Masturbate mutually and perhaps give instructions (harder, faster, slower, deeper, pull out, two fingers ect.)or/and perhaps tell them about what you would like to be doing to them -- Watch the submissive masturbate and perhaps give instructions (harder, faster, slower, deeper, pull out, two fingers ect.) or/and perhaps tell them about what you would like to be doing to them -- Watch the Dominant masturbate. The submissive may or may not be allowed to touch, may have to play with breasts, present themselves, strip, dance, beg the Dominant to cum on them, tell the Dominant what they would like to be doing for the Dominant or tell the submissive what the Dominant would like to be doing to them -- Have the submissive do a strip tease -- Have the submissive spank themselves -- Have the submissive beg -- Have the submissive give a 'speech' about something like: who owns them, that they are your property, that providing you with pleasure satisfies them, be creative! -- Have the submissive slap themselves -- Have the submissive taste their cum -- Have the submissive lick their breast -- Have the submissive play with 'toys' -- Have the submissive display themselves in some fashion -- Have the submissive replicate sucking the Dominant's cock (with a finger or toy) -- Keep the submissive naked while chatting -- Blow kisses -- Do any of the activities from other categories on live video |
Taking Photos or Videos...-- Take photos/video of any task performed/as 'proof' it was done
-- Take photos/video of submissive kneeling, displaying self, touching for Dominant -- Take photos/video of Dominant touching for submissive -- Send photos to each other of yourself just having fun normally -- Take a video diary to send to the other (good for submissive to send to Dominant) -- Record video messages for each other, affectionate, sexual, orders, fantasies -- Have submissive take specific photos -- Have the submissive keep a socially acceptable photo of the Dominant on their phone or in their wallet so they are consistently being reminded they must behave -- Have the submissive take a socially acceptable photo to give to the Dominant to display in a wallet, on a phone, in a frame, just somewhere so the submissive feels loved -- Record video/s the submissive must listen to before sleeping or before getting up in the morning -- Have the submissive record a fantasy for the Dominant's pleasure -- Have the submissive take pictures with lewd phrases written on their body (Master's cunt, please fuck me, Roy's property, Al's bitch, ect.) -- Send a picture of the Dominant to the submissive and have the submissive kiss/bow before it at specified times -- Send a picture of the Dominant's cock to the submissive and have the submissive kiss/bow before it at specified times -- Send the submissive a picture of the Dominant/'s dick and have the submissive look at it each time she masturbates/undresses -- Have the submissive send the Dominant pictures of herself in common positions for the Dominant to look at when she is ordered to be in them -- Take a video of yourself touching to send to the other to watch while masturbating -- Have the submissive take a picture of herself bowing toward the camera and send it to the Dominant. The Dominant should put it in a lowered place where he can see it often |
Using Text...Dominant MUST remain contactable, abandoning submissive part way could be bad for health. Safety measures MUST be taken...
-- Do any 'Self Sub' items but progressively while communicating back and forth
-- Watch a movie at the same time and stay in contact, talking about it -- Write stories for one another (can be dirty, very dirty), may also be given as an assignment by Dominant -- Have submissive write how they would do something for the Dominant -- Cyber sex (kind of exciting with a long term partner actually) -- Have the submissive write about their favourite way to da da da (be taken/please master/get oral/ect). It doesn't have to be dirty -- Just tell your partner what you would like to be doing (I love it when my Master tells me ho much he wants to cuddle me) -- Ask the Dominant what they are doing and then write about what you would be doing if you were there. Details make it shine! -- Have the submissive write essays. This is good for punishment. It may be on something like the pleasure of pain, why respect is important, how to hold a certain position, anything. It may even be on some finance thing if desired! Just be sure to read it Dominants! -- Send affectionate messages out of the blue -- Tell the submissive to find a place to masturbate out of the blue -- Randomly give the submissive a task or action to do, subtle or bold as agreed (don't do this in a public place unless you know your partner well subs!) -- Have the submissive write a journal/The Dominant write a journal (for the other to read of course) -- |
Self Sub (on her own)...Dominant should check on submissive ASAP when asked to perform activities alone. Safety measures MUST be taken...
-- Self bondage
-- Masturbation -- Self spanking (breasts, thighs, ass, pussy, all good ones) -- Ice in any hole and left to melt (may be put in just before leaving house -- Write the Dominant's name on submissive's body before beginning their day to remember who owns them -- Shave Dominant's initial into pussy hair -- Recite rules at specified intervals -- Spend specified times in certain positions/masturbating -- Dominant sets times to do certain things -- Research topic specified by Dominant -- Exercise to make body better -- Clothes pins on nipples/pussy lips/lips/clit/tongue/breasts/inner thighs/anywhere! Maybe pull off or whip off (ouch!) -- Fuck your ass -- Wear a butt plug under your clothes for the day -- Have the submissive paint her nails colours specified by the Dominant or paint one nail a different colour chosen by the Dominant. -- Have the submissive paint the Dominant's initials on her nail/s -- Have the submissive eat only at specified times -- Have the submissive crawl at all times in her room (or house if living alone) |