BDSM Relationships
Courtesy of RedTears
T/b -- Top/bottom
Often only for a night, it is possible for the one who appears the bottom to actually be the top. This is the first level of relationship and is kept only to the bedroom.
D/s -- Dominant/submissive
The most common BDSM relationship is definitely the Dom/sub. The submissive chooses to submit to the desires of his or her Dominant, a commitment resealed with every act. Submissives often range from accepting only light submission to submitting almost completely. Majority of submissives will be female, and majority of Dominants, male. Perhaps it is from stereotypes or maybe in our base nature? Either way, this is the most popular relationship dynamic found in BDSM, often beginners believe it is the only one.
M/s -- Master/slave
It is hard to tell the true M/s relationships from the D/s relationships. M/s involves total submission. The slave makes a one time choice to obey and afterwards, never says no. He or she is completely the property of the Master. The Master should be told EVERYTHING that happens in the slave's life and mind with nothing with held. A slave may discuss or suggest things with the Master but the Master's word is final. The Master may do as he or she pleases to/with the slave.
Often only for a night, it is possible for the one who appears the bottom to actually be the top. This is the first level of relationship and is kept only to the bedroom.
D/s -- Dominant/submissive
The most common BDSM relationship is definitely the Dom/sub. The submissive chooses to submit to the desires of his or her Dominant, a commitment resealed with every act. Submissives often range from accepting only light submission to submitting almost completely. Majority of submissives will be female, and majority of Dominants, male. Perhaps it is from stereotypes or maybe in our base nature? Either way, this is the most popular relationship dynamic found in BDSM, often beginners believe it is the only one.
M/s -- Master/slave
It is hard to tell the true M/s relationships from the D/s relationships. M/s involves total submission. The slave makes a one time choice to obey and afterwards, never says no. He or she is completely the property of the Master. The Master should be told EVERYTHING that happens in the slave's life and mind with nothing with held. A slave may discuss or suggest things with the Master but the Master's word is final. The Master may do as he or she pleases to/with the slave.
Alternative Dynamics
S/m -- Sadist/machoist
These relationships often have no sexual aspects and are purely about pain. Sadists enjoy giving it, machoists enjoy receiving it. Generally the sadist will identify as a Dominant and the machoist as a submissive, though this is not always the case. On occasion, one might come across a Dominant machoist and a submissive sadist, whilst rare, they do exist. M/p (human) -- Master/pet (human)
Pet relationships often won't have a sexual side, they are purely for service and enjoyment. In one type of pet relationship, the submissive is still seen as a human and simply treated like a pet. These are the most likely to have some sort of sexual aspect. M/p (animal) -- Master/pet (animal)
In this type of pet relationship, the submissive takes on the persona of a particular animal. Common ones are dogs, cats, ponies and cows. The submissive often must be silent or make the noise of the animal. Pony-pets will be subjected to 'pony play' in which they are harnessed and made to pull a cart in which their Master sits. Pup or kitten-pets will generally be walked, taught tricks, pet, given treats, made to eat from pet bowls and generally act like a house pet, even to the point of using a litter tray. Cow-pets are true to name. They are 'milked'. Using breast pumps. the submissive will be brought to lactation and eventually milked daily, weekly or even monthly. Whilst these are the main animals, there are many, many others, all involving different activities and mannerisms but the general idea is to become as 'animal-like' as possible and this rarely involves sexual activities. D/lg -- Daddy/little girl
A very gentle, caring dynamic. Often confused with age play, Daddy Doms have one major difference to most Dominants. Their caring aspects are much stronger than most. Sometimes Daddy Doms even act as a sort of real father. In that, they are there, they are Daddy, but their little girl will be with other guys, vanilla or not. She will go about her life, date, love, break up, but Daddy is always there to help her and guide her. Sometimes there is no return for this except the love of their little girl, sometimes it is more sexual and flavoured. Daddy may gain pleasure from his little girl, be it her suffering for him, sex or anything else. A Daddy Dom does not replace a biological father, 'daddy' becomes a multi use word. Many little girls have a very good relationship with their father and still have a Daddy Dom. That's normal and fine. Daddy Doms are there to guide their little girls very much. Little girls will not have a specific age and are grown women, they just need that authority figure and find it in their Daddy. They are often very playful. Owner/doll
Perhaps the strangest I have come across. These submissives desire to be turned into living dolls, many being permanently modified. The Dominants, or Owners, simply desire to create their perfect, life sized doll. Some dolls are sex dolls, many give up complete control. It is a curious dynamic which would definitely require intense research before entering due to the extremes of the relationships. |