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Alternatives to...
Self harm...
Holding ice on your skin
Squeezing an ice cube hard
Biting into a hot pepper
Snapping a rubber band on your wrist
Drawing on yourself
The butterfly project
Sticking your hand in frozen food
Taking a cold bath/shower
Slapping a table top
Stomping your feet
Screaming into a pillow
Write using the worst language possible
Brush your hair (especially if it is long and knotty)
Wax (hairless and sane, ohhhh)
Eat some food you really hate
Finding a Dominant...
Find a top (no, not a shirt)
Express your interests to a friend, maybe they will play with you at times
Express your interest to a friend and do a little role play
Ask a trusted sub to top you
Ask a trusted Dom to top you
Find a playmate (someone who plays when you need it with no strings attached)
Do a little self medicating, find a belt and spank yourself!
Find a partner to role play with online
Introduce your boyfriend/husband/wife/girlfriend to the lifestyle
Read some fun stories
Close your eyes and fantasise